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**HOW I FELL INTO BDSM** In the second pic you can see all ..
🕑 Added 2023-02-24 17:45:30 +0000 UTC **HOW I FELL INTO BDSM** In the second pic you can see all my kinks according to the results of kinky test π I promised you to tell how I fell into the BDSM community, I finally got my thoughts together in this post. Enjoy reading it! As corny as it sounds , but it all started with my crazy ex, who had dominant tendencies, which I didn't realize right away. He decided I needed to get to know him better when he took me to a kinky swinger party , and that sounds like fun , but I literally didn't know what I was going to. I think I looked pretty funny when I saw it wasn't just a "friends party" when the first thing I saw was a bound woman with a gag in her mouth in the middle of the roomπ I have nothing against kinky parties, but at that point I was not mentally prepared for it , and my ex's mistake was not warning me and helping me gently walk into it, he literally threw me inside the kinky world. I left without waiting for the party to end. After that my ex tried to forc3 the idea that I should be spanked or tied up during sex , and he tried to manipulate and do it without my consent. He was convinced that all women like to be dominated by a manπ Once I agreed to play his game out of curiosity, I don't want to stress about it, I will just say that he did things that were not agreed upon before and I literally felt unpleasant stress and pain, no pleasure! It made me think he was a crazy pervert and I dumped him. I didn't realize at the time that BDSM wasn't about pain or violence and that my ex was just trying to seem dominant, but really was a toxic person who didn't know the rules of boundary security. But since then I've been sick of rude dominant men π€’ I forgot about that trash story , and just moved on with my vanilla boring life π I'm in a wonderful open relationship now , I've said it many times so I won't dwell on it. My partner is switch , and I found out about it when he offered to fuck him in the ass one day , although before that we had pretty normal vanilla sex π I got interested in BDSM aesthetic after seeing the variety of beautiful floggers , puddles , belts , handcuffs, etcπ€© At that time I already moved to another city for a awful reason , but the city is much bigger than my home one so more kinky events and workshops take place here. I decided to go to the shibari master class π₯° After that I got to the anal play and male anatomy master class. Next was a master class of handjob techniques. And after that I attended a kinky party with a fetish dress code. I was very attracted by the aesthetics of fetish clothes π I showed my new skills to my partner and he was overjoyed π And I realized that for me the feeling of myself in a controlling position when my partner felt like a submissive toy is better than a vanilla orgasm. This emotion is deeper than an orgasm, because it is a whole range of feelings, it is a big burst of dopamine and adrenaline. Sex is about pleasure. BDSM is about taking all sensations to a new level, it makes the relationship brighter and lets you get to know yourself more deeply. I learned in one of the workshops that BDSM can be like therapy for many people with psychological trauma. It allows you to let go and accept traumatic situations. It allows you to discover new facets of your sexuality. It allows you to accept yourself and your desires, even if you are judged by everyone around you. But the most important thing I have learned is that personal limits must always be secure! Don't let pseudo-dominants break your psyche. You have to know exactly what is unacceptable to you, and discuss all the details and your STOP word with your partner. I look forward to your feedbackππ₯
